Family: Just Another 'F' Word

FAMILY For many, family is just another F word, for many it’s twisted, convoluted and absurd, for many they don’t feel loved, wanted, understood or heard, for many the boundaries are unhealthy and lines of loyalty are blurred, for many its silent treatment, abuse and safety deferred, for many it’s been a life of shaken not stirred. Regardless of what they hoped and preferred, for many family is just another F word. For many the ego and all its owners fears transferred, distort the skills because of past traumas that have occurred, now alienation, arguments, anger and loss complete the crossword, as ego creates the chaos of trauma foretold, this is what causes the continued pattern to unfold. And even more karmic debt to be added to this toxic energy mold. So you see for a mini family is just another F word. The story can be rewritten, when attention to ego is deferred. With the right tools and intention, that story you will reword, to confident and connected from controlling and coward and break from the herd. Regardless of the actions of others, it’s the truth of self-love overheard, this act of self love will heal you and be enough, of this you can be reassured, to shift belief that family is just another F word, when you realize that family is you plus you and not defined by a word. ~Candice J. Frazier, Author of Namaste Away & Thrive: Release Negative Influences and THRIVE For many, the word FAMILY IS just another ‘F’ word. And pretty much as the poem explains they feel unloved, unwanted and unheard. And during the holidays this can be even more profoundly felt. With the rates of depression at an epidemic level and suicide an ever increasing level, I just want to bring awareness to the struggle that many face during the holidays. Many struggle to find things to be happy and grateful for when feeling so unloved and unwanted. And since we can’t change the actions of another, we can only change our relationship with ourselves. I’ve definitely lived this struggle, and still do on many levels, but I have learned this valuable lesson through the power of my self love alchemy. I can not put my happiness in the hands of anyone or anything else. And focusing on the things that I can not control, only gives way to more ego feels and more to be unhappy about. It is something I feel. I feel them when I find things I create from within to tap into feeling gratitude, joy, love and peace for.

Things like being alive, being able to create and having an opportunity to be the master of my emotions and be in an aligned state.

Feeling love and joy in the face of adversity and using that pain as the ingredient missing in the alchemy of it all.

Maybe by embracing the pain and giving it love, I have found a way to free myself? I sure feel like I have.

Like right now as I write this blog post at home alone on Christmas morning, missing loved ones and uncertain of when I will be reunited with them,

I had 2 choices...

1) Sit with ego feels and let the day be ruined.

2) Go into my heart feels, employ the alchemy of self love and tap into the things that bring me joy, confidence and peace.

I will acknowledge my ego, who I have politely named Curious Cautious Carla, and honor where that feeling and gently remind to shift focus to heart for a more beautiful scenery.

And then promptly find things to do that get into heart feels.

Art and nature are my immediate go-to's.

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Alchemist: an imperfect, beautiful being who instinctively uses their pain to create something exquisite. I was able to transform my struggles and guess what? SO CAN YOU!! I am so thankful for this awareness and I want to share this message of hope with you...anything is possible and there is always a way, your job is to love you and focus on loving YOU! I have a free digital download called 9 WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF! Click here: https://0143bebc-4ce7-4a39-a1d1-9d20aa9a910c.filesusr.com/ugd/c93ba1_f21a57c9154742d593812026fe98c263.pdf Self-love... It’s the gift that keeps on giving=unconditionally and without the requirements of anyone else’s actions. You are worthy of love. But first-it must come from within. Because what you magnetize, is what you materialize. So shake of those holiday blues and drop into your heart feels and LOVE YOU.. right now AS you ARE! Unconditional love is bliss. And you can not have what are not embodying. So BE LOVE #BeLove -join the movement now! Together we can create harmony for humanity one aligned soul at a time!! Happy holidays! You are LOVED, WANTED & APPRECIATED!! ️Candice J. Frazier Want more content? Find me on social!! Also, check out my podcast for more valuable content on how to master your mind, honor your body and align with your souls purpose! Please share and tag a friend! ️ RESET YOUR GROOVE PODCAST SHOW-Write A New Story: https://anchor.fm/resetyourgroove/episodes/RESET-YOUR-GROOVE--Write-a-New-Story-eafe29 ********************************************* CONNECT WITH ME: Websites: www.namasteawayandthrive.com www.candicejfrazier.com Email: Cj@candicejfrazier.com IG: @wellnesswithcandice FB: https://www.facebook.com/candice.frazier.10 @TheDivineAlignmentSage (Mindset Mastery) @HurtNoMoreHealer (Narcissistic Abuse Help) @WellnessWithCandice (Wellness & Lifestyle) ******************************************** Reach out to me and together we will RESET YOUR GROOVE! Write a new story, step out of the pain, let go and love you through your self care as you create full body wellness! Who is Coach Candice? She is a tenacious, passionate, empathetic and creative soul who is on a mission to bring healing to humanity to create a happier, blissful world. She overcame limiting beliefs, codependency, lifelong traumas and loss, self abuse, addictions, autoimmune illnesses, chronic pain/fibromyalgia and beat anxiety and depression all through daily acts of kindness and radical self love through intentional self care and living fully present in the moment. *Self Love Alchemy Expert™️ *Certified Master Health/Life & Mindset Transformation Expert *Life Skills Competency Educator *Certified Medical Assistant *Motivational Speaker & Author *Creator/Speaker/Educator: Mind Diet, Balanced Bliss, and Kick Sugar Cravings, PTSD & Trauma Recovery Talks/Workshops *Founder of Harmony For Humanity.org Nonprofit & *22HaloProject.org (coming 2021) *Creator of the: Mind Diet Program, 8 Self-Love Gateways, 7 Steps to Now is Formula, 12 Steps to Freedom Addiction & Codependency, Balanced Bliss *Global Like Skills Ambassador Global Presence Life Skills Ambassador @ Parenting 2.0 https://www.parenting2pt0.org/the-global-presence/ambassadors/ *Women’s Empowerment Coach & Co-Host of The Sweet Nine Podcast Show *Founder & Owner of EmBodyE Wellness & Zen Hikes